Tuesday, April 01, 2008

Where's my Hayden?




My friend Kendra sparked this post.... We had a long talk at dinner Sunday night about our "terrible two year olds." Matt and I said that the day after Hayden's second birthday, he became a different kid. I was the worst two year old ever, per my parents! They have always said "you'll get paid back one of these days!" Well, I am. My trouble is not with my 5 month old...it's my 2 year old. In public, Hayden is a doll. People tell me all the time how sweet and good he is. The moment he steps foot in our door, he turns into a little devil. I guess I'd rather have him good in public than a little devil everywhere! His "thing" right now is to do the complete opposite of what we want him to do. He throws fits like I've never seen and cries all the time!! Poor little Carson rarely naps because his brother wakes him up all day. We spank, we do timeout, we try to reason with him, we've ignored him, we've flipped out on him, we've remained calm, you name it and we've done it. Nothing is working. I will say that he has been struggling with horrible allergies since about September and is on THREE allergy medicines. I don't know if he just always feels bad or if this is our life with a toddler. We are 5 months away from turning three and we are just hoping that year is better than this one! I'm not sure it could get much worse. If anyone has advice, please give it to me!!! I posted a few pictures that shows the sweet side of Hayden Thomas. I guess I need to look back on pictures like this just to remind myself that he can bring a smile to my face...it just doesn't happen very often:-(

7 comments:

Melanie said...

Oh how I dread those days! I'm preferring to live in dream land right now and think that Cohen will remain sweet forever...unrealistic, I know. Wish I had some advice for you...I'll be seeking yours in a few years when we'll be going through it together!

Audrey said...

One book- "Raising your Spirited Child" by Mary Sheeda-Kurcinka Changed our lives forever! He and I are different people after reading this book. A-Mazing! Let me know what you think.

Cara said...

I know exactly! I told Kendra that Camden and Zachary did the same thing and it tool Camden 2 yrs to return to normal. Sorry to dampen your day!

Summer said...

We are going through a similiar thing with Ava right now. She can be perfectly calm and happy, and out of the blue if she doesn't get her way, she falls apart into a screaming, cyring crazy woman! We are trying our best to be consistent with discipline and patient, but we are exhausted with this whole tantrum thing! I am sorry to tell you that Ava is 3 and we are still going through this, but she didn't really throw tantrums at age 2, so maybe Hayden will get it all out of his system. I don't have any words of wisdom, just empathy, and reassurance that you're not going through this alone! It was good to see you at Easter.

Rick & Shara said...

Okay, just read your poem! Ha! I just downloaded a new program on my computer and I am working on making some new headers for all of my favorite friends. You just might be one of them!! Haha. Give me a little more time though and email me a favorite picture or two when you get a chance!

Clay & Maurine said...

Does it help that when he gets older you'll get to razz him about how horrible he was and tell embarrassing stories about him to his girlfriends?... I think that made my mom feel better about me sometimes! :)
Feeling for you and just said a little prayer for an extra good day today.

Shauna said...

I feel your pain. Jordan will be so sweet one minute and the next an absolute terror. We have tried multiple forms of discipline all with the same results. I am praying she grows out of it soon also. Let me know if you get any words wisdom!